I have recently become more and more fascinated by how many masks we wear. By masks I mean the personalities we take on when we are around different people. I remember when I was working as a psychologist feeling like I had to portray a certain image to my clients. I wore the “I got it all together” mask when many times I was feeling anxious and overwhelmed. The funny thing is most of us are completely unaware of the masks we wear because we have been wearing them for so long. Many times they come from feelings of “not good enough” so we behave differently to be liked. Then what happens is we start to believe that we are liked for our masks and not for who we really are. These masks become reinforced until we forget that we are wearing them.
My recent awareness is that when I drop the “I got it all together” mask and I get real with people, I experience a lot more connection and intimacy. It’s like when I get real, it gives other people permission to be real. Today when I was checking people into a yoga class a new student was talking about how she had not done yoga in a while. Sensing some apprehension on her part, I mentioned how I can be so hard on myself when I get back into something and how easy it is for me to get in my head about not being good enough at it. The student looked at me and said thank you for saying that because she realized that is exactly what she was doing. We laughed at the silliness of our thoughts and made a real connection.
My invitation to you is to be real with someone and see what happens. Share something about yourself, your truth. Don’t be attached to the outcome. It’s just about sharing yourself authentically. I believe you will be amazed at how much connection is available when You Get Real.